You are the Vessel, not the House for your emotions. Allow them to move through you, unpack them, unroll them, let them go, They are not here to stay.
Negative emotions go hand in hand with limiting beliefs, they can create blocks that make us unhappy, unhealthy and resentful with others, with our selves and with live in general. If we do not heal our emotional bodies, we can end up with immense and overwhelming weight on or lives that trapped our vitality and life force.
Making peace with our emotional body is paramount if we want to evolve in consciousness. Transforming unwanted emotions opens us up to allow more light into our inner self.
Negative Emotions: There is a time in our lives, when we realize that it’s time to change a specific aspect and create some thing new. When we become aware of that need of change, it means that the time has arrived to let go of that aspect and all related to it, which is not longer needed. When we want to move into a happier state of being, we need to let go of our old ways of being, possibly what we have, what we believe, what we feel, and anything that is in the way of our happiness and self-fulfillment.
When we remain holding on to our current state of being, we tend to get more of what we already have, repeating cycles over and over again until we believe that we can't change, telling ourselves that it is too difficult and we are just not capable of making the desired changes. On the other hand, when we become aware of our emotions and the loop of thoughts around them, it opens up opportunities for us to embody and take responsibility, instead of being a victim.
Accepting, embracing and making the choice to let go of the emotions is a powerful process to unblock different aspects of our lives, move away from shame, guilt, towards a greater sense of inner power. It transforms us from victims to creators.
Holding on to emotions and beliefs becomes a skill that we develop through our lives. Let's not kid ourselves: holding on to emotions is very demanding energetically and extremely hard work; it exhausts us and often leads to ill health physical and mental; apart from this emotional attachment to negative thoughts and feelings becomes an addictive pattern that close our lives down and narrow the panorama of possibilities.
Holding on vs Letting Go: Holding on can be an important way for us to survive and to protect ourselves, but there is this moment when it stands in the way of our growth and happiness. When this happens, the process of letting go becomes an opportunity to unlearn the negative beliefs and disengage from old beliefs and emotions.
What is letting go? Letting go is the process of Release unwanted emotions, feelings and beliefs that are outdated and in the way of our happiness. That is it.
Being a simple process, why do we believe letting go is so difficult and complicated?
There are two main reasons why we find it difficult to engage with letting go:
1. Our ego does not like simple things and processes, our ego conceives that strategies have to be complicated intellectually; when a simple opportunity to change appears, our ego resists. Resistance can be the first feeling that appears when we decide consciously to work with the letting go process. Letting go of Resistance is a great opening towards a deeper work with any unwanted emotion, therefore it has to be deal with most of the time when we want o release and unwanted emotion.
2. We are convinced that holding on is vital for our survival and security because actually it serves this purpose to a point, we keep holding on this habit thinking that if we release the attachment, disaster awaits us.
Keeping us safe is the job of our Egos and a very good job it does, so much so that we end up stressed, feeling isolated and afraid of our growing shadow. But the shadow keeps following us where ever we go, however hard we run and hide.
How does the process of Letting Go works:
The First Step: Is to identify what you want or need to let go of. The wisdom of the body is vital here, as the body knows what is safe to release and when. The body holds what has not been processed and therefore we need to enter into it, right into the felt sense of what is being held by us. To acknowledge what is held in the body leads us towards Acceptance of this sensation. Although there is of course a conscious mental decision to let go of a this particular emotion, the first player here is Embodiment. Accepting and Welcoming this feeling into your body, regardless of how unpleasant or uncomfortable it is. When accepting, embracing and making the choice to let go of the emotions is a powerful process to unblock different aspects of our lives, move away from shame, guilt, and victimisation towards a greater sense of inner power.
The Second Step: Is to ask yourself if you can welcome this felt sense into your awareness. Are you willing to experience it? When we are starting the process of letting go, there is often a lot of Resistance to go even near these feelings. The best we can do is work through our feeling of Resistance, so that, we may at some point be able to feel okay about letting go. Each person has their unique journey and timing. Often once the feeling of Resistance has been released we are able to release what formally felt unable to. Acknowledgement of resistance is paramount and is a skill that will serve any further emotional release process. So... face Resistance. It will help you a lot.
The Third Step: Is the Release and Let go, as a result of the conscious decision and openness to embrace the dis-comfort of the emotion in the body. The whole system (Body, mind and soul) is willing and ready to let go after the first two steps. When the unwanted emotion is Released, a sense of relief and lightness comes as a result. The energy freed into the field is very transformative. Lets remember emotion is Energy in motion. When negative emotions are released, the energy liberated in the process goes into positive emotions, feelings and beliefs as a direct result of Letting Go.
The Forth Step; This is where a great expansion of self happens.
After years of practice and teaching, we have found that letting go is an easy and really transformative tool. Emotional attachments are very linked to our subconscious programs and beliefs and run our lives with our conscious consent.
This is a big subject, but Letting go is simple and accessible. We are introducing you to this process so that you can more easily find your way towards self realisation. When we become aware of our emotions and thoughts around them, it opens us to take responsibility for them, embodying, embracing them, and making the choice to let go of emotions that can be blocking one or more aspects of our lives.
We are great advocators of Embodiment as opportunity gain awareness in every aspect of our lives. In our personal and teaching practice of letting go we use: Ying Yoga and Somatic Meditation as main Embodiment tools to work the process.
WHY USE THE BODY AS A TOOL IN LETTING GO OF UNWANTED EMOTIONS AND FEELINGS?
The body is how we manifest and operate in this physical realm. Even though sometimes we feel disembodied, we are always in our bodies, may be a more accurate way to say it is, the body is always with us. Therefore the Body present as an invaluable tool to access more subtle bodies of us (emotional, energetic, spiritual).
We tend to neglect our body pains and discomforts, and push ourselves into suppressing and avoiding, not listening our body’s wisdom. We use suppressive pain killers and anti depressants in a desperate attempt to avoid the pain held in our bodies. In contrast, when we really honor our body and own the felt sensations it can set us on the path towards healing through the process of letting go and releasing. A Conscious Body practice, allows us to get in touch with the blocks that need to be released for us to transform our lives into the best version of ourselves.
We advocate Ying Yoga and Somatic Meditation for their simplicity and direct bridge body-Emotion..
YING YOGA AND SOMATIC MEDITATION AS TOOLS IN LETTING GO
Yin Yoga is modality in which we hold the postures at least for 3 minutes, in that way we give the chance to exercise the body’s connective tissues: Ligaments, joints, cartilages, tendons. Through holding the asanas for this length of time we allowed the work to go deeper from the muscle into the fascia, which is the connective tissue around every organ. This allows accessing memories stored in the body. These body memories are treasures for working with the letting go process.
“In yin yoga practice, we use the asanas to get into our body, instead of the body to go to the asanas” (Sarah Powers). The motto is giving the body the chance to open and invite it to go deeper, neither forcing neither pulling back. Since there is a good length of time to access the posture, each asana becomes a mini meditation, a possibility to surrender and to listen to the body.
While the Yin Yoga practice can be challenging at the beginning, due to the time of holding the posture, once you connect with your breath and the decide to embody the experience, it becomes a very pleasant, enjoyable practice with deep rewards.
In Ying Yoga we engage with three aspects:
THE BREATH: Is the anchor of the practice as in any Yoga Modality. The presence with the breath makes you more aware of how your body is. The breath is the partner that brings you back into the body. Anytime you find your mind wondering away from your body, reconnecting to your breath brings you back to it
ALLOWING: You open up to feel the body, You give the body permission to feel whatever comes during the practice, You surrender yourself to embodiment. When during your practice emotions are triggered, there is a great opportunity to allow them to be felt them. Being in the posture for a length of time is the perfect setting to acknowledge and embody these feelings, given permission to the body to dive into the sensation.
FACING THE EDGE: The edge is the place in the posture where there is tension in the holding, is the point where you can’t go further from, where you feel a significant resistance in the Body. The edge can be challenging and painful but is often a doorway to stored memories, emotions and traumas. It’s in this edge where we face the choice to stay there or back off. It’s a sensation that tells you not to go further as you may cause damage to they body. It’s where you can feel your body is stressed in a healthy and tolerable way.
The edge can be very fruitful when working with the process of letting go. This is because it’s usually where emotions and sensations arise and there is an opportunity to connect with that emotion, embody it and allow consciously the letting go process. When you have released on the felt sense staying in that edge will provide you not only physical and physiological but also Psychological benefits, which is finally the intention of letting go.
Practicing Ying Yoga is very rewarding when we set the letting go intention, it becomes very enjoyable because of the sensorial exploration towards more emotional lightness and freedom.
Although meditation has becoming a lot more popular by the day, very often the meditation most people practice take them away from their bodies into a dreamy mind. Some people use meditation as a way to avoid unpleasant emotions and feelings held in their bodies, thinking that by avoiding uncomfortable emotions, they will be transcended and transformed. This can be a mistake and instead of meditation serving healing processes, what it is doing is suppressing emotions and accumulating more shadow in the system.
In somatic meditation by contrast, we use the body to access the here and now, which is finally the only possible time. This brings us into alignment with our true self, the greater self our soul. As we explore our body, we find that it is vast, open and connected to all there is.
The somatic meditation is done with the body in stillness. There are different protocols and formats, they go from the simplest and more basic to more elaborated and challenging requiring the body to hold sitting positions for long periods of time. The somatic meditation is vast, therefore it is important to start with the basic and simplest practices that allow the body to easy and become friends with the practice.
The first suggested practice is: Beginning with the position lying on our back with our knees raised, feet on the floor. In this posture we focus on breathing with our diaphragm gently drawing in air to our lungs and allowing it to be expelled, slowing down the process an bringing awareness to the breathing process.
After the breathing process is as relaxed and easy as possible, we start to focusing our attention on our big toes. What can we find, what sensations are there in our toes? Is there any discomfort can we release, any tension and while we conduct this exploration we can use our breath to let go of any tension. this exploration continues up through our body.
Timing: The suggestion is not to rush the process and spending as long as it is needed in any part of the body. The time spent in the meditation is as long as we choose, making sure that we can keep the focus. As a rule, it is good to set oneself a time in the day to meditate and a length of time as it sets a steady and habitual rhythm. While we are exploring the body it often happens that we become distracted by the mind and find ourselves thinking about all sorts of things, At the beginning it is normal that we get distracted, we just need to train the mind by gently bring it back to the body exploration, In this way the mind is trained to remain quiet and you develop a strong ability to remain focussed.
When we do the Somatic meditation with the intention of letting go Emotions that are bothering and blocking us, the finding areas of tension in the body will provide lots of opportunities to engage bodily, accept, welcome and let these emotions go.
As with the Yin Yoga, doing Somatic Meditation we may find areas of our body that are difficult to enter into, we find the resistance. As we continue to focus our attention and become aware of emotions that are held in the body, we can choose to receive this resistance as the body feedback for us to consciously heal and release unwanted emotions.
Body Awareness: As we welcome the body resistance and/or sensations, in our awareness, we usually notice that an emotion emerges. The question that we need to make is: Can we accept this feeling? As we decide to accept it, the feeling often intensifies. This is the opportunity to enfold the feeling and by doing this we offer it up to our soul. The feeling will then gradually resolve.
The process of somatic meditation may or may not bring insights into past events and a greater understanding of the past events of our life. This process brings a greater sense of peace and ease in our body, which can be a portal towards our greater self. Embarking on this practice is to begin the journey of self realization.